Sunday, 15 September 2019

Legally Blonde

Season 3 Episode 8

It's a cup a soup this week. A short episode where I draw upon one of my favourite films to illustrate how I can get tangled up in the drama of the courtroom in my mind - I'm captivated by the cut and thrust of the arguments for the prosecution and defence. turns out I'm so captivated by their arguments that I'm not noticing the real world and how I'm showing up. 

Hear a question I like to ask myself when I notice my mind going into Judge "The Honorable Marina R Bickford" Mode. Instead of asking "is it true?" I ask "is it helpful?".

This approach takes practice - we're not trying to get rid of our unhelpful thoughts. We consider them to be part of the human experience. What we're trying to do is notice when we're tangled up in a thought and help get back to the present moment to consider how we'd like to show up in the world.


Show Notes

Legally Blonde is a 2001 American comedy film based on Amanda Brown's novel of the same name. It was directed by Robert Luketic and stars Reese WitherspoonLuke WilsonSelma BlairMatthew DavisVictor Garber, and Jennifer Coolidge.

It is in my top five films of all time. 

Sunday, 1 September 2019


Season 3 Episode 7

Well P-Soupers - the weeks are fair flying by. This week - using lemons - I try and show how we can develop stories that may impact in unhelpful ways on how we show up in life. This episode also introduces a little bit of Relational Frame Theory (RFT) which underpins Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) but don't be alarmed by the acronyms as it's really all about lemons. 

Advisory note: singing is involved.


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Show Notes

You can find Chris Winson's videos on the #365daysofcompassion group on facebook. You can also find #365daysofcompassion on twitter and instagram.

In this episode I talk about Derived Relational Responding and if we break that down,

Derived – because its functions and consequences are not contained in five senses experiencing.

Relational – this derivation is relational as it a result of framing one set of words or inner experiences with another set of words or inner experiences.

Responding – because there is a response in behaviour – which could be towards who we want to be or away from who we want to be.

You can listen to the Peter, Paul and Mary album here.