Sunday, 6 January 2019

A story about working with values

Season 2 Episode 16

Here I share a story from my life - about how I've worked with values. It's become quite popular in group training so I thought it was the right time to share it with the P-Soupers.

I talk about how I translated a value into action and share the associated unhelpful content that came up for me. I give some tips on how to shift the relationship with the thoughts that can be unhelpful and make values a more prominent guide to our action.

You can have a go using the list of values below and if you share the episode on LinkedIn, facebook, twitter or instagram by 17 January, you'll have a chance to win your own set of values cards. 





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You can get your Diary for Valued Action from Dr Nic Hooper here - it's such a great investment for 2019!

Values exercise

  • Have a look through this list of values and see if any leap out at you - remember, this is a gut instinct exercise.
  • Then have a think about how you could bring that value to life in your behaviour and have a go.
  • You might also notice some of the unhelpful stuff that your mind produces. It's great to notice this as this content can sometimes influence our behaviour without us really noticing.
  • Remember - you can always return to your values - in fact - you should expect many 'gentle returns'.

Values List [Copyright Russ Harris 2010]

1. Acceptance: to be open to and accepting of myself, others, life etc 
2. Adventure: to be adventurous; to actively seek, create, or explore novel or stimulating experiences 3. Assertiveness: to respectfully stand up for my rights and request what I want 
4. Authenticity: to be authentic, genuine, real; to be true to myself 
5. Beauty: to appreciate, create, nurture or cultivate beauty in myself, others, the environment etc 
6. Caring: to be caring towards myself, others, the environment etc 
7. Challenge: to keep challenging myself to grow, learn, improve 
8. Compassion: to act with kindness towards those who are suffering 
9. Connection: to engage fully in whatever I am doing, and be fully present with others 
10. Contribution: to contribute, help, assist, or make a positive difference to myself or others 
11. Conformity: to be respectful and obedient of rules and obligations 
12. Cooperation: to be cooperative and collaborative with others 
13. Courage: to be courageous or brave; to persist in the face of fear, threat, or difficulty 
14. Creativity: to be creative or innovative 
15. Curiosity: to be curious, open-minded and interested; to explore and discover 
16. Encouragement: to encourage and reward behaviour that I value in myself or others 
17. Equality: to treat others as equal to myself, and vice-versa 
18. Excitement: to seek, create and engage in activities that are exciting, stimulating or thrilling 
19. Fairness: to be fair to myself or others 
20. Fitness: to maintain or improve my fitness; to look after my physical and mental health and wellbeing 
21. Flexibility: to adjust and adapt readily to changing circumstances 
22. Freedom: to live freely; to choose how I live and behave, or help others do likewise 
23. Friendliness: to be friendly, companionable, or agreeable towards others 
24. Forgiveness: to be forgiving towards myself or others 
25. Fun: to be fun-loving; to seek, create, and engage in fun-filled activities 
26. Generosity: to be generous, sharing and giving, to myself or others 
27. Gratitude: to be grateful for and appreciative of the positive aspects of myself, others and life 
28. Honesty: to be honest, truthful, and sincere with myself and others 
29. Humour: to see and appreciate the humorous side of life 
30. Humility: to be humble or modest; to let my achievements speak for themselves     
31. Industry: to be industrious, hard-working, dedicated 
32. Independence: to be self-supportive, and choose my own way of doing things 
33. Intimacy: to open up, reveal, and share myself -- emotionally or physically – in my close personal relationships 
34. Justice: to uphold justice and fairness 
35. Kindness: to be kind, compassionate, considerate, nurturing or caring towards myself or others 36. Love: to act lovingly or affectionately towards myself or others 
37. Mindfulness: to be conscious of, open to, and curious about my here-and-now experience 
38. Order: to be orderly and organized 
39. Open-mindedness: to think things through, see things from other’s points of view, and weigh evidence fairly. 
40. Patience: to wait calmly for what I want.
41. Persistence: to continue resolutely, despite problems or difficulties. 
42. Pleasure: to create and give pleasure to myself or others 
43. Power: to strongly influence or wield authority over others, e.g. taking charge, leading, organizing 
44. Reciprocity: to build relationships in which there is a fair balance of giving and taking 
45. Respect: to be respectful towards myself or others; to be polite, considerate and show positive regard 
46. Responsibility: to be responsible and accountable for my actions 
47. Romance: to be romantic; to display and express love or strong affection 
48. Safety: to secure, protect, or ensure safety of myself or others 
49. Self-awareness: to be aware of my own thoughts, feelings and actions 
50. Self-care: to look after my health and wellbeing, and get my needs met 
51. Self-development: to keep growing, advancing or improving in knowledge, skills, character, or life experience. 
52. Self-control: to act in accordance with my own ideals 
53. Sensuality: to create, explore and enjoy experiences that stimulate the five senses 
54. Sexuality: to explore or express my sexuality 
55. Spirituality: to connect with things bigger than myself 
56. Skilfulness: to continually practice and improve my skills, and apply myself fully when using them 
57. Supportiveness: to be supportive, helpful, encouraging, and available to myself or others 
58. Trust: to be trustworthy; to be loyal, faithful, sincere, and reliable 
59. Insert your own unlisted value here: 
60. Insert your own unlisted value here: