The Lighthouse

Season 3 Episode 9

This week – it’s a cuppa soup. A short episode – the lighthouse – it combines a poem I learned at school with a reflection on how we can keep sight of the things that give us meaning in our working lives. We call these qualities that give us meaning our personal values. It can be difficult, scary and revealing to consider what gives us purpose in our work. TO use these qualities as a guide for our behaviour & decisions can be challenging too. I consider my lighthouse – to be beaming out my personal values – when the sea is calm I can see the lamplight but in turbulent times they can become difficult to see.

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Other episodes on Values 

A story about working with values - hear an example from my life and what could have got in the way.

Values - two top tips - using inspiration from pop I bring you two top tips on working with values.

Exploring values with Jonny Line - Jonny shares some great ideas on how to work with values.

Daily Audio Values Diary - hear me talk about my values in daily instalments during a break with the family. 

Cargoes by John Masefield

Quinquireme of Nineveh from distant Ophir,

Rowing home to haven in sunny Palestine,

With a cargo of ivory,

And apes and peacocks,

Sandalwood, cedarwood, and sweet white wine.

Stately Spanish galleon coming from the Isthmus,

Dipping through the Tropics by the palm-green shores,

With a cargo of diamonds,

Emeralds, amethysts,

Topazes, and cinnamon, and gold moidores.

Dirty British coaster with a salt-caked smoke stack,

Butting through the Channel in the mad March days,

With a cargo of Tyne coal,

Road-rails, pig-lead,

Firewood, iron-ware, and cheap tin trays.

The recording of the Souter Lighthouse Foghorn by Newts Newton on Soundcloud

Legally Blonde

Season 3 Episode 8

It's a cup a soup this week. A short episode where I draw upon one of my favourite films to illustrate how I can get tangled up in the drama of the courtroom in my mind - I'm captivated by the cut and thrust of the arguments for the prosecution and defence. turns out I'm so captivated by their arguments that I'm not noticing the real world and how I'm showing up. 

Hear a question I like to ask myself when I notice my mind going into Judge "The Honorable Marina R Bickford" Mode. Instead of asking "is it true?" I ask "is it helpful?".

This approach takes practice - we're not trying to get rid of our unhelpful thoughts. We consider them to be part of the human experience. What we're trying to do is notice when we're tangled up in a thought and help get back to the present moment to consider how we'd like to show up in the world.

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Legally Blonde is a 2001 American comedy film based on Amanda Brown's novel of the same name. It was directed by Robert Luketic and stars Reese Witherspoon, Luke Wilson, Selma Blair, Matthew Davis, Victor Garber, and Jennifer Coolidge.

It is in my top five films of all time. 

LEMONGATE

Season 3 Episode 7

Well P-Soupers - the weeks are fair flying by. This week - using lemons - I try and show how we can develop stories that may impact in unhelpful ways on how we show up in life. This episode also introduces a little bit of Relational Frame Theory (RFT) which underpins Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) but don't be alarmed by the acronyms as it's really all about lemons. 

Advisory note: singing is involved.

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You can find Chris Winson's videos on the #365daysofcompassion group on facebook. You can also find #365daysofcompassion on twitter and instagram.

The book on the ACT Matrix is available here.

In this episode I talk about Derived Relational Responding and if we break that down,

Derived – because its functions and consequences are not contained in five senses experiencing.

Relational – this derivation is relational as it a result of framing one set of words or inner experiences with another set of words or inner experiences.

Responding – because there is a response in behaviour – which could be towards who we want to be or away from who we want to be.

You can listen to the Peter, Paul and Mary album here.